Good Day 🙂
I have found myself on the outs with my younger sister (by 5 years), and this has caused great hardship on my family, as well as myself. It has never been a great relationship, but one that was better than it’s current state, as to where we do not even talk to each other, visit on another, etc. Nothing. This all stems from at least 3 years ago, when in a heated argument where she bashed my wife of 28 years, and stated to her in my presence, "That she was, and never will be, a part of our family." I was furious, and had a cup of tepid coffee, and threw it at her in rage. I know that my actions were not condoned, even by myself, and I apologized (not accepted by her at all, still today) in a heartfelt manner. She has a tendency not to forgive anyone, and bears this burden for a long time.
This past September I suffered a major heart attack, my second in three years, nearly dying this time, and she never came to visit at all. Her children, because it is their mother, side with her, and are cold towards me, as well as my wife and daughter. Before all of this, I would take them on outings, both as a group, as well as on individual outings. Christmas this year was spent away from both my mom, as well as my sister and family, for I cannot put any more stress on my heart. I strongly feel that my mom, although caught in the middle by her children, sides with my sister on what she is told. Despite what others have told her concerning my sisters actions, she (my mom) still takes for my sister. I currently have 6 stents on one artery, and cannot take any more stress.
On Christmas Eve, my daughter was asked for her hand in marriage. My daughter asked (2) close friends to be her Maid of Honour, and they both had to decline because of the drama that my sister has caused, and probably will cause at the July wedding. My daughter does not want even to invite her only Aunt (On my side) to the wedding, in case of drama and over riding on my sister’s part. In the past, she has caused my wife great pain, by brushing her aside, and stating that "She will be her Birthing Coach", and also that "She will decide on who comes to the Baby Shower" etc. Toatally a control freak to say the least, even though it is not her daughters. She has (2) daughters that will be ample time for her to get into the limelight.
I have no inkling on what to do, but as I stated, this has caused a great divide among us. Any help and suggestions are deeply appreciated.